Comments on: Playing the Rape Card http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/ Mon, 08 Dec 2014 10:47:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.1 By: Broken Social Contracts and Silent Consent | My Black Networks® -The Latest News from The African Diaspora http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-361 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 06:29:35 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-361 […] few years ago I wrote a post entitled “Playing the Rape Card” inspired by the tensions happening between Morehouse and Spelman around student rape. As I […]

]]> By: kizzmm http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-353 Wed, 30 Sep 2009 16:01:30 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-353 I really like this piece – I've reread it about 4 times thus far. We sweep sexual assault under the rug when find that the accused is someone of high social standing in our community. And we immediately start looking for blemishes in the victim/accuser's lifestyle. We do this whether s/he was violently raped by a stranger or a non-stranger, but it really seems like rape incidents among people who know each other are trivialized. So sad

]]> By: kizzmm http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-4193 Wed, 30 Sep 2009 11:01:00 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-4193 I really like this piece – I’ve reread it about 4 times thus far. We sweep sexual assault under the rug when find that the accused is someone of high social standing in our community. And we immediately start looking for blemishes in the victim/accuser’s lifestyle. We do this whether s/he was violently raped by a stranger or a non-stranger, but it really seems like rape incidents among people who know each other are trivialized. So sad

]]> By: kizzmm http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-352 Wed, 30 Sep 2009 10:01:30 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-352 I really like this piece – I've reread it about 4 times thus far. We sweep sexual assault under the rug when find that the accused is someone of high social standing in our community. And we immediately start looking for blemishes in the victim/accuser's lifestyle. We do this whether s/he was violently raped by a stranger or a non-stranger, but it really seems like rape incidents among people who know each other are trivialized. So sad

]]> By: Uptown Notes - Broken Social Contracts and Silent Consent http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-351 Tue, 03 Mar 2009 20:19:06 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-351 […] few years ago I wrote a post entitled “Playing the Rape Card” inspired by the tensions happening between Morehouse and Spelman around student rape. As I […]

]]> By: Dumi http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-350 Wed, 22 Aug 2007 01:53:00 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-350 As far as I know, the charges were dropped.

]]> By: Dumi http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-360 Wed, 22 Aug 2007 01:53:00 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-360 As far as I know, the charges were dropped.

]]> By: Anonymous http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-349 Wed, 22 Aug 2007 01:42:00 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-349 Does anyone know what ever happened with regard to the allegations? There was a lot of media attention in the beginning and then it just stopped.

]]> By: Anonymous http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-359 Wed, 22 Aug 2007 01:42:00 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-359 Does anyone know what ever happened with regard to the allegations? There was a lot of media attention in the beginning and then it just stopped.

]]> By: RachelsTavern http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-348 Wed, 11 Oct 2006 02:48:00 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-348 Fabulous post. Whether it’s whites or men there is this sort of mentality in the dominant group where people are more than willing to give the “benefit of the doubt” to the racist/rapist.

It is almost like people will disbelieve until they find some sort of definitive proof (and not always that), which they still don’t want to believe.

It is very frustrating.

]]> By: RachelsTavern http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-358 Wed, 11 Oct 2006 02:48:00 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-358 Fabulous post. Whether it’s whites or men there is this sort of mentality in the dominant group where people are more than willing to give the “benefit of the doubt” to the racist/rapist.It is almost like people will disbelieve until they find some sort of definitive proof (and not always that), which they still don’t want to believe.It is very frustrating.

]]> By: Anonymous http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-347 Thu, 05 Oct 2006 04:07:00 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-347 Dumi, this was a good post. Of course, as I mentioned to you on the phone, I agree with what you had to say. But what I appreciated most about the post is that it was the voice of a man. There is so much power in a man calling attention to our privelege in this society and how it translates into abuse that at times even we do not see.

I would just like to say this. Just as you were vocal here Dumi, many brothas will openly express discontent for rape. But less brothas will go as far as you and think deeply about their own misconceptions and biases around rape and sexual assault. Brothas, hell america in general, needs to look into the mirror and ask the hard question. Where do my hypocrisies lie? Chances are they are along the lines of the priveleges you possess in a particular social category. And YES the majority of us do holds positins of power and privelege in some context or another. After accepting our limited insights the next thing is to never search society for the answer in how to eradicate these prejudices and injustices from our minds or the world. Rather we must begin to push ourselves first. Push ourselves to grow in humanity. So, to close I pray that more and more people work to understand what humanity means and what it represents. I would write on it, but I have to go to sleep. Besides my original point was to say that you were right on and I encourage all men to dig deep into their minds and hearts for their true feelings around the issues of rape and sexual assault. And if necessary, align your heart and mind with a balanced and honest view on the matter.
Oh, and I guess I am the first male to respond to the post.

]]> By: Anonymous http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-357 Thu, 05 Oct 2006 04:07:00 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-357 Dumi, this was a good post. Of course, as I mentioned to you on the phone, I agree with what you had to say. But what I appreciated most about the post is that it was the voice of a man. There is so much power in a man calling attention to our privelege in this society and how it translates into abuse that at times even we do not see.I would just like to say this. Just as you were vocal here Dumi, many brothas will openly express discontent for rape. But less brothas will go as far as you and think deeply about their own misconceptions and biases around rape and sexual assault. Brothas, hell america in general, needs to look into the mirror and ask the hard question. Where do my hypocrisies lie? Chances are they are along the lines of the priveleges you possess in a particular social category. And YES the majority of us do holds positins of power and privelege in some context or another. After accepting our limited insights the next thing is to never search society for the answer in how to eradicate these prejudices and injustices from our minds or the world. Rather we must begin to push ourselves first. Push ourselves to grow in humanity. So, to close I pray that more and more people work to understand what humanity means and what it represents. I would write on it, but I have to go to sleep. Besides my original point was to say that you were right on and I encourage all men to dig deep into their minds and hearts for their true feelings around the issues of rape and sexual assault. And if necessary, align your heart and mind with a balanced and honest view on the matter.Oh, and I guess I am the first male to respond to the post.

]]> By: Dumi http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-346 Thu, 28 Sep 2006 22:31:00 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-346 Thanks for the comments Dance and M. Ironically, my only comments on this came from folks who I know are working on the domestic abuse frontlines. I got a good deal of positive feedback from brothas on this post too, but no public responses… interesting.

]]> By: Dumi http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-356 Thu, 28 Sep 2006 22:31:00 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-356 Thanks for the comments Dance and M. Ironically, my only comments on this came from folks who I know are working on the domestic abuse frontlines. I got a good deal of positive feedback from brothas on this post too, but no public responses… interesting.

]]> By: Monique http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-345 Wed, 27 Sep 2006 18:22:00 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-345 Thanks Dumi for doing this post.

I want people to know that rape is included in domestic abuse and it happens to women at a much more alarming number than people think (1 out of 4 women will experience a form of domestic abuse). Abuse being classified as sexually, physical, psychological and financial. Current language and response to abuse (all types) against women is far from sufficient. Newspapers hardly ever properly cover abuse stories. They call it random violence when it’s not random at all. Boyfriends, Husband, Friends, Relatives, Housemates, Girlfriends do abuse. Just because you know them, does not mean its not abuse or rape.

If have an opinion and/or experience I urge people to talk out about this. When you raise your voice, you help our sistas raise theirs. Start early, talk to your youth (men and women) about teen dating violence and healthy relationships.

Folks interested in learning more should check out http://www.rainn.org, http://www.ndvh.org, http://www.woar.org, or http://www.waa.org

]]> By: Monique http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-355 Wed, 27 Sep 2006 18:22:00 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-355 Thanks Dumi for doing this post. I want people to know that rape is included in domestic abuse and it happens to women at a much more alarming number than people think (1 out of 4 women will experience a form of domestic abuse). Abuse being classified as sexually, physical, psychological and financial. Current language and response to abuse (all types) against women is far from sufficient. Newspapers hardly ever properly cover abuse stories. They call it random violence when it’s not random at all. Boyfriends, Husband, Friends, Relatives, Housemates, Girlfriends do abuse. Just because you know them, does not mean its not abuse or rape. If have an opinion and/or experience I urge people to talk out about this. When you raise your voice, you help our sistas raise theirs. Start early, talk to your youth (men and women) about teen dating violence and healthy relationships. Folks interested in learning more should check out http://www.rainn.org, http://www.ndvh.org, http://www.woar.org, or http://www.waa.org

]]> By: Dancewithme2 http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-344 Sat, 23 Sep 2006 02:03:00 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-344 Ok – so I was a little confused in the beginning. You almost got beat down for the “alleged” rape comment. I was just going to mention what you did about “finding a breech in her responsibility.” That is so true. People look for anything that will make the victim/survivor seem acocuntable for her rape or sexual assault. I totally see where you were going…especially with the concept of a mere two rapes in 10 years. Unfortunately, even women think that rape can’t occur if the man is a boyfriend, husband, or even friend. We cannot begin to imagine the number of rapes that go unreported. Thats the catch 22 about working as a SART volunteer. The days that I don’t get calls I worry that someone didn’t report. As long as there is a power differential between men and women and men who feel insecure about their status in society – there will be rape. Rape isn’t about sex or women – its about power. Good Post – there will be no need to burn you at the Stake – I look forward to part two. ;)

]]> By: Dancewithme2 http://uptownnotes.com/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-354 Sat, 23 Sep 2006 02:03:00 +0000 http://www.professorlewis.com/blog-dev/playing-the-rape-card/#comment-354 Ok – so I was a little confused in the beginning. You almost got beat down for the “alleged” rape comment. I was just going to mention what you did about “finding a breech in her responsibility.” That is so true. People look for anything that will make the victim/survivor seem acocuntable for her rape or sexual assault. I totally see where you were going…especially with the concept of a mere two rapes in 10 years. Unfortunately, even women think that rape can’t occur if the man is a boyfriend, husband, or even friend. We cannot begin to imagine the number of rapes that go unreported. Thats the catch 22 about working as a SART volunteer. The days that I don’t get calls I worry that someone didn’t report. As long as there is a power differential between men and women and men who feel insecure about their status in society – there will be rape. Rape isn’t about sex or women – its about power. Good Post – there will be no need to burn you at the Stake – I look forward to part two. ;)

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